So, you’ve finally stumbled upon the potential roomie of your dreams after what feels like a lifetime of scrolling. But hold on, don’t get too comfortable just yet! It’s time for the ultimate test: the face-to-face encounter.
We get it — texting vibes can be deceiving, and emojis can only tell you so much. Are they the real-life LOL kind of person, or more of a polite chuckler? Will you be bonding over binge-watching sessions or staring at awkward silences?
But, most importantly, where should you meet? Selecting a space where both of you feel at ease and communication flows effortlessly is key. At Diggz, we understand the significance of this very first meeting. Many of our users opt to meet up before sealing the deal. To give you the inside scoop, we polled our community to find out their go-to-meeting spots. Here’s what they had to say:
1. Coffee Shop
Coffee shops are the go-to spot for a whopping 63% of our folks. And why not? They are crazy convenient, especially if you are both from the same city or neighborhood. The vibe? Comfy chairs, the coffee aroma, and a setting so chill, that you will feel like you’re catching up with an old friend.
Safety-wise, coffee shops have your back with their bright lights and constant buzz of people. Plus, that aroma of freshly brewed coffee is like an instant icebreaker, melting away any awkwardness.
The best part? Coffee shops are everywhere, so finding one won’t be a hassle. And since they usually stay open late, you can pick a time that suits both of your busy schedules or just meet up during lunch hours.
2. Public Park
Finding the right roommate? Safety first, folks! Public spaces are the smart choice, especially for people new to the roommate scene or women looking for trustworthy flatmates. Daylight meetings are ideal, but if you have to meet after sundown, opt for well-lit areas. Approximately 18% of participants choose public spaces, and these spots can range from school libraries to cozy cafes, and yes, our favorite, public parks.
Why a park? It’s all about visibility and open spaces. Public parks offer a relaxed yet secure atmosphere, making them perfect for getting to know potential roommates. Moreover, you won’t have to worry about any time constraints other than meeting during the day. And you could pick from the multitude of public spaces that are near the two of you. The possibilities are endless.
3. At Theirs or Your Home
You could also have the meet and greet with your potential roommate in their apartment or home. Or better yet, have it where you will be living together. The two of you could talk, discuss all those questions, and get to know one another, while also looking around the apartment and where you’d potentially sleep.
This roommate interview and apartment tour combo can be a win-win, giving you a chance to discuss chores, responsibilities, and everything in between. But let’s talk real for a minute — safety is the top priority. Especially if you’re meeting for the first time or still uncertain about the apartment or the person. Sure, it sounds great to have this in-person interaction but be cautious. Trust your instincts, meet in daylight, and if you’re not feeling it, don’t hesitate to walk away.
4. Bar or Restaurant
Nothing builds a friendship better than getting drinks together after work. Pick a spot that’s conveniently located for both of you. A bar or a restaurant works especially well when you have to meet up in the evening, after dark, or after work.
In this laid-back environment, you can effortlessly assess whether they’re someone you would enjoy sharing your living space with. You could whip out your roommate questionnaire and get straight on it! You could also ask them about their hobbies and interests. If the conversation flows naturally, you’ll know it’s a good sign. If not, that’s probably a good indicator that they’re not right for you.
So, if you’re in the mood for a more relaxed and social setting, consider a nearby bar or restaurant for your meetup. It’s the perfect way to break the ice and start your roommate journey on a good note.
5. Meet on Video Call
So, your potential roommate lives in a different city, and meeting face-to-face is a bit of a stretch. Don’t sweat it. If you’re already vibing well, have a tight schedule, or share mutual friends who vouch for them — you can skip meeting in person. Just catch them on a video call!
Think of it as a virtual meet and greet. Sure, it’s different from meeting in person, but hey, it’s better than nothing, right? Emails and instant messages lack the personal touch that a video call brings. You can see their expressions, and hear their tone — it’s like the next best thing to meeting in person.
Zoom, FaceTime, Whatsapp, Skype — take your pick! Treat it like a casual conversation, ask your questions, and let the conversation flow. Plus, it’s a fantastic opportunity to gauge their communication style and get a feel for their personality.
Navigating the First Meet and Greet: What to Cover!
So, you’re gearing up for that all-important first meet and greet with your potential roommate? Excellent! Here’s the lowdown on what you need to cover in this crucial conversation.
First off, the holy trinity: chores, vibes, and logistics. You want to ensure you’re both on the same page regarding responsibilities — who does the dishes and takes out the trash? Are you a night owl while they’re an early bird? Do your personalities click? And most crucially, the logistics: how are you splitting shared expenses and bills, and who’s responsible for what?
While our trusty Roommate Questionnaire gives you a great start, there’s more to dive into. Don’t shy away from practical matters. Ask about their driver’s license or identification to establish their identity and trustworthiness. Safety first, always!
When it comes to finances, leave a paper trail. Transparency is key. Whether it’s rent, utilities, or shared expenses, keep records. And speaking of records, make sure your landlord is in the loop. They must be aware of any changes in the living arrangement before you put pen to paper on that lease. So, if down the line you need to get rid of this arrangement, it can be much more amicable than having to evict them forcefully.
Remember, this initial meeting sets the tone for your shared living experience. It’s not just about finding a roommate; it’s about establishing a harmonious home. So, meet up, ask the important questions, and make sure you’re both comfortable and secure in this new chapter. Here’s to a smooth roommate match and a fantastic living arrangement!